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As soon as a person dies, people will spread the news about someone's death, those who can afford even published it in newspapers as obituaries.
Those who care for the dead will care for the living
You can read this in every cemetery which
mean that as a Filipino it's a part of our
traditional and cultural belief and it's our
practice in paying homage to our dead ones.
As soon as a person dies, people will spread
the news about someone's death, those who
can afford even published it in newspapers
as obituaries. We as a Christian or even the
Tagalog people hold the wake of dead ones
which we called "lamay" for 3-7 days or
even last more longer if we are waiting for
family or some relatives from far away
places. The body of the dead one will be
cleaned and embalmed then put in a coffin
then displayed or put in the house or in
funeral home. The casket will be surrounded
by funeral lights and wreath or bouquet of
flowers from family, relatives and friends.
A registry book and contribution box where
what we called "abuloy" is to be put or drop
is near the casket, this is to help the
family of the dead one for some funeral and
burial expenses. Family members, relatives
and acquaintances are always there for the
vigil. Some foods like biscuits, nuts and
candies and warm drinks are customarily
served during the nightly vigil.
some activities outside or near the vigil to
keep the people awake the whole night such
as playing, playing cards, gambling, singing.
It is conventional that concerned visitors
ask the surviving family members how the
deceased died, if he or she suffered during
his or her illness or last moments, or how
much the hospital expenses were. We also
offer mass or novena for 9 days for the
benefit of the dead one. On the last night,
some have also a live band nowadays.
On the day of burial or funeral, the coffin
is carried by family members or friends and
loaded into a hearse and family, relatives
and friends joining the procession going to
the Church for Catholic funerals wherein
the dead one will be celebrated by mass.
The representative color of attires for the
memorial service and interment is normally
black. However if white clothing is
preferred, it is customary to sport a black
mourning pin at the chest area. Then after
the mass or from the Church it will goes to
the cemetery for the entombment. A custom
known as the pasiyam or pagsisiyam.
This nine-day prayer service concludes on
the last night with a novena and a formal
meal with family, relatives, and friends.
Such a concluding rite on the ninth day is
performed because Filipinos believe that
this is the day when the soul of the
departed relative moves on from the world of
The bereavement period does not
normally end with this ritual, instead
extending for a period of one year.
During this time, the family will still
express their mourning by not holding
personal or family celebrations and other
communal activities. Although, it is very
common to conduct an additional evening of
prayer forty days after the nine-day period,
then again, on the one year anniversary of